False Expectations

expectations

Are you one of those people who can open up a book, read half way through it – or even more so, dip it, horror of horrors – and then go, ‘nah.  Too boring’ and put it back on the shelf?  Or who likes the spontaneous life over the life of order and a reputation of consistency?  Well, good for you.  ‘Coz I am not like that!

I really don’t like putting back on the shelf a book only read halfway through, regardless of whether it is breathtakingly exciting or incredibly boring.  If I’ve read that far, then for goodness’ sake, I may as well finish it, or else I’ll spend the rest of my life asking ‘what if’.  I do things because that’s what I always do, and it’s what people are expecting.  Or, on the flip side, I won’t do something, because I did that last time, and doing it twice in a row would not be ‘the proper thing’.  I make up standards about the little thing things just so that I come across in a certain way.  Consequently I don’t wear the same clothes twice in a row to Church, I finish every book I start, and I might turn down a fun night to uphold my ‘disciplined record of a consistent bedtime’.   Getting the idea?!

I’m learning though, that those things don’t actually matter as much as I think they do.  I do not have to be perfect; I do not need to live up to the external expectations I put on myself.  I’m starting to realise that people’s opinions don’t matter, either, and very possibly, I’ve made up opinions that I’ve imagined others will have about me.  But even if they do have those opinions, what does it matter?  Won’t it go in and out of their brain at the speed of lightning?  Do I honestly want to build my life around doing things perfectly, so that people think of me in a certain light?  If I do, but secretly long to do something else, am I really being myself?

Ultimately, Christ is my completer.  I can be me, with all my mistakes and quirks, because Christ completes me.  The truth is; my mistakes don’t define me.  Jesus does.  The ladder of success and acceptability was dismantled at the cross, and we don’t need to worry about being ‘perfect’, because Jesus gives me everything I need, and everything else in the world, well, it doesn’t matter.

If you want a reputation, then make it one of character – one of living a life of Christ.  Don’t worry about doing something because of what others will think, or because you must uphold silly little standards we put upon ourselves.  Instead, walk as a child of light, worthy of the gospel of Christ (Ephesians 5:8, Ephesians 4:1)

On the other hand; if I want to go to bed every night at the same hour, because I honestly want to, because I know I function best that way, and because I like x amount of sleep every night, then I should feel free to do that!  Go for it! God created me in all spheres of life for his fame – my body, my mind, my soul, my personality, my quirks, the whole kit and caboodle, and living out how he has made me to be glorifies him.

Sometimes it is important to do a certain thing day in and out because of a reputation that needs upholding, like turning up to work on time.  Sometimes we don’t have an option to whether we finish the book or not, if we are studying at high school or university (these things are actually both character related anyway).  But when it comes to the things that I do off my own back, if my life is aligned with Jesus’, then I am free to be myself, and be as spontaneous, different, structured, ordered, quirky, and unique as I like!  We are free in Christ to be the person we were made to be, because all the things that might hold us back – like sin, death, shame, guilt, failure, pressure, and fear – are taken out of the picture.  So don’t let people’s, or your own, expectations, made-up reputations, or self-made rules get in the way of living the full and freeing life God wants for you.

The Next Story (book review)

In July 2012 I finally started reading The Next Story by Tim Challies, ironically on a kindle.  I say finally because I had wanted to read it for a long time; I had just started reading Challies’ blog when the book was released in April 2011, and had been eying it off as an interesting topic to read about since.  I say ironically because the book is about technology, and here I was reading it on an electronic device!  However, the irony soon wore off as I started sliding the pages across and grasped a bigger picture of technology’s value in today’s world.

To begin with, Challies set us straight about the evils in technology: essentially, that evil technology doesn’t exist.  Technology can be, and is, used for sinful tendencies, but in and of itself, it is not bad.  Technology is part of the dominion mandate, and Christians should explore it to its full potential and thinking about it with a biblical worldview – but more on that in a second.

After setting us straight, he dives into the history of technology, and the impact it had on society on an obvious level.  Before the telegraph, the horse was the fastest way to communicate with others.  Nothing beat it.  The telegraph changed all that by providing a way for England and America – and very quickly, countries all over the world – to communicate with other countries within a matter of a few hours, opposed to the days or weeks a letter took even with the Pony Express.  Shortly afterwards, the telephone, the fax machine, the computer, the internet, and the smartphone, all bombed us one by one until our world was full of technology and ways of instant communication – something Challies calls the digital explosion.  This explosion is a good thing, and a huge benefit to us, but it also comes with dangers that need recognition and ways of escape.

And that, the dangers technology brings, often subconsciously, is what Challies went on to talk about for the rest of the book.  He looked very introspectively at the cause and effects of technology as an object itself in society, and its role in information overload, communication, identity, privacy, truth, and distraction in this day and age.  Although I thought he was a little too finicky at times, I also think he made me think critically about technology, and it’s helped me to think logically about other things as well.  Personally being a little reluctant to changes, I am prone to labeling new technology as bad and cry out for the ‘good old days’ of the 1880’s or 1930’s, or even 2000’s, but Challies took a different perspective, asking challenging questions that puts new technology in its rightful place outside of the ‘technology is bad’ reaction, or the ‘newer is better’ mindset that we can also hold to.

Back to viewing technology with a biblical worldview: the Bible doesn’t give clear instruction on technology as we know it today – the smartphone wasn’t around in King David’s time; but it does give principles to follow for all of life, and technology needs to align with the Christian life.  What I appreciated about Challies was how he saw through all the gadgets and handy time-saving apps, and looked at what it was doing to us as individuals, and as a culture, and where it lined up with what God has laid out for us in the Bible.  I was surprised, sometimes uncomfortable, at the track I have taken with technology in certain areas, but Challies also gave very helpful application at the end of each chapter to guide us towards living it out.  While he didn’t lay down the law in the least, he graciously showed the difference between where the world is heading with technology and the dangers therein, and what God’s word has called us to, and how our priorities, habits, and thinking can line up with it.

Ultimately, I highly recommend this book.  As a warning, it’s not the sort of book I picked up before going to bed, because it made me think hard, but neither would I want to read it before bed, because as I read it, I wanted to hash it out and sort through the ideas buzzing around in my head, either verbally with family and friends, or with a pen and paper laptop.   It was hard going at times, exhilarating at others, and definitely worth a read, because people today, especially Christians, need to know about this digital explosion and how it has affected our lives, but also how we can live with it with integrity and purpose.

Happy 14th birthday Daniel!

Daniel 14yo

I’m so proud of my brother Daniel.  Over the years he’s shown a lot of determination and never let any difficulties stop him.  He is also very compassionate and sensitive to others’ feelings and needs, and is always ready for a good joke or laugh.  He loves God and is attentive to what He has to say.

He devours books like you would not believe.  I call him ‘Hiccup’ after the character in How to Train Your Dragon, because Daniel is really practical like Hiccup is.  He’s also making some really neat and funny stop-motion movies with Lego.  He’s such a boy, and I’m looking forward to seeing what God has planned for him!

I love you Daniel!

On baking chocolate chip biscuits…

I had offered to make afternoon tea for a girls’ Bible study I help out with yesterday, and whipped up a batch of chocolate chip biscuits. Sadly, I forgot to check back on the last tray and they burnt to a crisp… when I admitted my terrible failure to the girls at Bible study, one of the girls gasped what?!  Jess messed up?! (She’s half-serious too – my reaction was something along the lines of heck yeah!)

Well, not wanting to leave biscuit-baking on a sad note, and because I like making chocolate chip biccies, I decided to make another batch.  I knew they’d get eaten throughout the week, but this time, this time for sure – they would not get burnt! 

So I make the biscuits and into the oven they go.  I am looking at my watch while washing the dishes and feeling quite pleased with myself for being so quick and efficient when Josh walked in.  He made some comment about me baking, and I confided confidently that I was not going to burn a batch again.  His response?

Then what is the oven doing on 250C?

Um…

Do you have a timer going?

Um…

I suggest you get one.

Gotta love big brothers!

Me voted.

Voting 2013

A first for me today: voting!  I was pretty excited.  I think it was because it was something new, a requirement and privilege bestowed on me that had never been bestowed on me before because I was underage.  In other words: it was for ‘big people’, and I had never been ‘big enough’ to do it before! I have never been very interested in politics, unless it had to do with watching the votes roll in during the federal elections. (I don’t know why that, of all things, interested me at age nine or eleven, but it did.)  However, politics is starting to make a bit more sense now, thus growing more interesting.  Slowly.  Today was our state elections for W.A.

We walked up the entrance and found Josh (who has a great blog and talks about Australian politics) handing out how-to-vote cards for the Liberals (side note for Americans: Liberal is Australia’s major conservative party, not liberal as in the left-wing party Americans associate the word with.  And Australians, please, I’m sorry, but I don’t want to get into a fight over politics with you!)   I thought the blue t-shirt was pretty cool; I wanted one too. Anyway; we thought we’d better take a photo to represent my first day voting and Josh’s involvement in local politics.

World, here we come!

turning one…

Dig through your couch cushions, your purse, or the floor of your car and look at the year printed on the first coin you find. What were you doing that year? (idea from The Daily Post)

Grabbed my purse.  Opened the zip, and pulled out a 10 cents coin.

1979.

Hm.  Wasn’t born then.

Second round; a $1 coin:

1984.

Hm.  Slightly better, but still ten years off any possibility of being born.

Round three; another $1 coin.

1984. Again. Still not born!

Round four finds me with a shiny five cents;

1995!  Finally! But only just – in September 1995 I was celebrating my 1st birthday.  My very first cake was a bowl of watermelon, candle and all!  Needless to say, I really felt the love.turning one

Mum wrote in a letter to Grandma:

August (11mo) And talk!  She yabbers away.  When Josh and Jess wake up at the same time they talk away together for ages.

September (12mo) Jess just can’t grow up quick enough; she wants to do everything that Josh does – go outside the fence (she follows him around the fence line – him outside, her inside) put hand cream on, drink cordial out of a cup, run, ride a bike, chase Tyke [the dog] (though she always comes off the worse as Tyke turns around, chases her, and licks her which understandably, Jess doesn’t like!)

Eight months old

JL eight months and Mum JLl checking out Mum's makeup JL baby at hose 12months JL

JL on the motorbike

This was me in 1995.  I might be biased, but I think I was pretty cute!

What were you doing in 1995?

A Ramble on CS Lewis, Technology, and Plodding.

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Hi there!

Sorry I haven’t blogged for a while.  Life’s been busy, and frankly, I haven’t known what to write about.  I have been reading Mere Christianity by CS Lewis, however, and that is plenty to keep me thinking, and I’ll let him be the writer.  Mind bending stuff, it is.  It’s sometimes also known as ‘the bane of my life’ as I try to decide if I agree with him or not, knowing that it is the infamous CS Lewis we are talking about here, but also knowing that even the most famous Christians get some things wrong.  Although I’m not yet fully convinced that humans instinctively know right from wrong, I have really enjoyed it when I eventually understand his logical arguments against dualism and pantheism.   I think I will have to read it again in a few years’ time to fully get my head around it to the point I could articulate his logic in a debate (not that I have any plans to join a debate team of any sorts!)

The non-recreational book I read before this one was The Next Story by Tim Challies, which I really enjoyed.  Again, it wasn’t the easiest of books I’ve ever picked up, in that I really had to think, and sometimes I felt he was nit-picking a little bit, but Challies’ discerning, questioning, and biblical perspective on technology was fantastic.  I think I have come away from it able to better perceive the pro’s and con’s of technology.  Being a girl who is a bit reluctant to change, I can easily write off the latest technology as bad and unnecessary, another way for a retailer to get more money, but Challies posed four probing questions to ask ourselves when we consider buying the latest thing, which helps to discern if I really need it.  I think asking these questions is a better way to go than simply disregarding it altogether because it is ‘new’, or going out and buying it just because it is the latest thing.  For two thirds of the book, Challies walked through the different areas where technology has had an effect on our society and us as individuals, which gave me an idea of what areas in my life I needed to guard against technology, and how to do that.  I’d highly recommend it if you want to understand the place of technology in our world today, how it came to be so imperative in our societies, and how to make sure you personally are in control of technology.

In the last few months, I’ve started to enjoy reading blogs and articles again.  After being on Facebook for a year, and that being my main choice of internet reading, I have noticed how my attention span has dropped when it comes to reading online, and probably offline, too.  I’m trying to read those articles that people share on Facebook, read at least some of the blog updates that come through my feed (and leave comments), and check in on a blog or two and see what they’ve linked to or written about.  I especially like A Girl Like Me, which is run by two wives to members of the band Tenth Avenue North, and Challies (who wrote the book The Next Story.)  I am also subscribed to a Christian movie review website called MovieGuide.org.  It reviews the latest flicks, Christian and mainstream, from a Christian perspective, which I like because I can get an idea if this movie is something worth watching, and so I have an idea what others are going on about when they talk about movies.  I don’t necessarily want to watch them myself, but at least I can say I’ve heard about it!

Life is moving along at a pretty good pace.  I’m continuing to tutor/teach two girls, help out at mainly music, babysit upon occasion, help out at a Bible study for girls, learn to drive, and a few other things.  I’m pretty busy, but it is exciting and growing me!

I am still plodding along with my professional organising course – plodding is the appropriate word to use, though I’m getting better at telling this somewhat slowpoke to move along a bit faster!  Piano kind of took a back seat in motivation last year, but today I spent some time trying to shake things up and get re-inspired, by listening to the pieces I am learning on YouTube, and working on a few new songs.  It’s OK to take a break, but I also want to get back into the swing of things.

And that is a rambling snippet into my life at the moment!

What has been happening in your life lately?

15 Disposable Gift Ideas

Nomi and I

A few weeks before Christmas, I was talking to a family friend who was going away for Christmas.  She mentioned that she was going to buy her three daughters their presents after Christmas since they only arrived at their holiday destination a few days before Christmas Day and she didn’t want to buy the presents locally.  I asked if the girls give presents to each other, and she said that while they used to, they stopped primarily because she found it was just more stuff in the house.  I find that really sad, because in our family, the presents underneath the Christmas tree holds a mystery and excitement – not a mystery of what is under there for me, but an excitement to give the next present.  Kids aren’t like that naturally; in our family it was an intentional move by Mum and Dad to make giving more blessed than receiving.

On the other hand; who does want more things in the house if it is going to be just stuff?  It is a tricky thing at birthdays or Christmas, when you get presents that you really don’t want, need, or even know what they are for!  It can be hard and unmotivating, but I don’t think Christmas presents need to be junk, and they don’t need to take up more space in the house.  Here are fifteen ideas that avoid the junk and yet can come from the heart.

  1. An iTunes gift card for a movie or for music
  2. Add to or replace things they already have: a pair of sneakers that is well-used, a shirt or two to refresh their wardrobe, some funky stationary from Smiggle – or just add to something they like to do, such as craft supplies, sheet music, or sport gear.  The trick is for it to be practical and used, so giving the money as a voucher to go shopping together with later might be the way to go.
  3. Bake their favourite dessert,  muffins, or biscuits
  4. Give a voucher to do their jobs, wash the car, give free lessons
  5. Take them out for coffee (or ice cream)
  6. Add to their favourite collection: foreign coin/stamp/teaspoon – it’s something they really want, is already ‘taking up space’, and is destined to take up more space.
  7. If they have an iPad, iPod, or smartphone, buy an app they will like and use
  8. Pay for or send them on an experience – pay for the registration for a term’s worth of sport, take them on a camping adventure, buy two tickets to take them to a movie, a concert, or ten pin bowling.
  9. If they have a kindle – or a touch device that has the kindle app – buy an ebook from Amazon
  10. Find a creative way to give money outside of inside a card.  One idea I saw was to put some money in a balloon, add some confetti, and blow it up – just don’t let go!
  11. A TEAR Australia or Compassion gift card (you actually are giving a person or family in a poverty-stricken area a goat, school supplies, or something that will support their livelihood)
  12. A bottle of lollies, nuts, or chocolate– a friend gave a cork-screwed bottle full of M&M’s to Nomi for Christmas and she loved it!
  13. A bouquet of flowers
  14. A plant that they can, well, plant, in their pre-existing garden
  15. A magazine subscription that will be disposed of, or even better, digital version

No matter what your situation is, if it is important to you to give, you can find a way to work around any situation.  What ideas could you add to the list?

10 songs on our identity in Christ

Some of my favourite songs talking about who we are in Jesus Christ.  Any of your favourites listed below?

In no particular order:

  1. Children of God, by Third Day – children of God, saints, redeemed
  2. Children of God, by Steven Curtis Chapman – children of God, treasured, loved
  3. I am Yours, by Casting Crowns – held by God, freely loved
  4. Fingerprints of God, by Steven Curtis Chapman – created, being sanctified
  5. Beautiful, by MercyMe – accepted in God’s eyes
  6. You are More, by Tenth Avenue North – the truth of Jesus’ love and being remade
  7. Stained Glass, by Keith Green (had to have one of his in here somewhere!) – his ambassadors
  8. Through and Through, by Colin Buchanan – being remade by God
  9. Wannabe, by Royal Tailor  – free from comparisons and the exteriors
  10. And my personal favourite, Definition of Me, by Steven Curtis Chapman – Jesus is our definition, we are his.